Ambition is the last refuge of failure.

Imagine one day you were to come across a young man digging a hole in the earth with a shovel.  An inquiry into his actions leads to the conclusion that he is digging his grave.  Likely you would find this intriguing, and would attempt to draw more information from the man.  Suppose the man explained that he wanted the best grave he could create throughout the years of his existence.  The man is literally spending his life preparing the resting place for his dead body.

Would you find this ridiculous?

Yet, throughout human existance, like the man digging his own grave, we have spent our lives preparing for our death.  Many find it necessary to believe in an afterlife, and are willing to sacrifice parts of their earthly lives in order to gain admittance.  Others spend their lives researching various religions, sciences, and beliefs, in order to find something regarding death that they can come to terms with.

At the very root of it, everything in our existence has grown out of our obsession of death.  Humans fear death so much that we have created religion, (a way to either accept death with the hope of some sort of better life,) and science, (a way of postponing death through medicine, or other forms of preservation.)

Why?

Why can't human's just accept that this may be the one and only life we have, and live it accordingly?  Yes, we are afraid of what happens after we die, afraid that there may be no purpose for our existence.  But why allow that fear to dictate the way we live the life that we know for certain we have at this moment?

Why can't we spend our lives simply enjoying being alive?

 

 


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on Jun 04, 2009

BTW, if S&JT is a girl, I too seriously doubt she was a boyscout.

Mm, agreed, given she is in fact a female.

I was never a boyscout either, but even I know I'm better off wearing a seatbelt, carrying a spare tire in my car, having my American Express in my wallet and going to the bathroom before a long trip. I may as well pray to God and ask for forgiveness while I'm at it, never know when I may come face to face with the options of the gates of Heaven or Hell.

Mhm

Right or wrong, would it not be better to be prepared? Would you carry a spare tire, tire repair kit and an air pump in your car if you were to travel across a long empty road with brand new tires and the next stop is 50 miles away?

I'm not saying there is anything wrong with being prepared, but that is if you believe that you need to be prepared. Some people just do not believe that.

 

 

on Jun 04, 2009

Why can't we spend our lives simply enjoying being alive?

So why not let go of the "what if's," and simply enjoy the moments that we know we have?

You're assuming that we're not enjoying our life because we're planning ahead for the afterlife? 

Why?  Why can't we enjoy this life that God has given us and still prepare for the afterlife?  Who says one excludes the other?

Do you have a 401K , a retirement plan or an IRA?  Does that stop you from enjoying your life because you plan for your retirement? 

In fact doesn't the fact that you are preparing for your twilight years give you a sense of peace and relief?  When I planned ahead for my kids college education I was relieved (and could better enjoy life) they were taken care of.  All because we prepared.  When I go on a trip and looking ahead, I'm always glad when I've got the tickets secured and paid for. 

It's the same with anything.  An upcoming test.  A party.  A wedding.  Any celebration.  Buying a Home.   If you did the homework early enough you won't be rushing around wishing you started earlier in your planning.  You may find yourself in a predicament if you do not plan. 

No, I think you have it backwards.  Preparing for the afterlife brings peace and gives us hope.  Those without hope and peace are not really enjoying life to the fullest.  Sort of like the grasshopper and the ant story.  When the time comes, they will find they were unprepared and found wanting.  Christ said when we put our hope in him and his eternal promise we would have life at the fullest.  In fact he called it the "abundant life." 

So don't feel bad about us.  We're not being robbed of enjoying our life here on earth.  We just know it's going to be so much better in the afterlife and we are prepared.  We look forward to that day knowing what we have here won't light a candle to where we're going.

 

on Jun 04, 2009

So don't feel bad about us. We're not being robbed of enjoying our life here on earth. We just know it's going to be so much better in the afterlife and we are prepared. We look forward to that day knowing what we have here won't light a candle to where we're going.

More power to you.

on Jun 04, 2009

I don't mean to be confusing S&JT, I was using my comments as examples of just living. Animals don't worry about the afterlife, they just live, should we do the same? That's my point.

on Jun 04, 2009

Animals don't worry about the afterlife, they just live, should we do the same?

Live like animals? Hmm, I'm suddenly reminded of Animal House.

 

on Jun 05, 2009

they just live, should we do the same?

I wouldn't say that animals (in a natural setting) "just live," they survive.  We have evolved past that stage, for the most part, so we have the chance to "just live."  So yes.  But not in the way you are comparing to animals.

on Jun 05, 2009

I wouldn't say that animals (in a natural setting) "just live," they survive. We have evolved past that stage, for the most part, so we have the chance to "just live." So yes. But not in the way you are comparing to animals.

And there is the difference, animals try to survive, you are asking us to ignore our suvival instincts and simply live. In my opinion, preparation for the afterlife is just another form of survival. Our physical bodies may die, but our souls live on. I would rather try to survive, as much as possible on Earth, and then in the afterlife. Besides, if I am lucky enough to make it to Heaven, i will have plenty of time to simply live. Here on Earth, things like the light bill, gas for my car, my bosses need to have todays work done yesterday and little thing called food don't exactly make it easy to just "live life".

on Jun 05, 2009

Here on Earth, things like the light bill, gas for my car, my bosses need to have todays work done yesterday and little thing called food don't exactly make it easy to just "live life

It depends on how you look at things and perceive living life. One could easily be living life through taking care of their wife, and children.

on Jun 05, 2009

Here on Earth, things like the light bill, gas for my car, my bosses need to have todays work done yesterday and little thing called food don't exactly make it easy to just "live life".

As you stated, some people live to sing, live to race, etc.  Perhaps you live for that kind of life.  As long as you find more enjoyment in it than suffering, and feel it is for you, then by all means, spend you life that way.  This goes back to understanding there are consequences in this life for our actions.  If you choose certain lifestyles, you must have a means to keep said lifestyles. 

I simply find it ironic, and fascinating, that we choose to live our lives certain ways in an attempt to receive a better afterlife, instead of attempting to make this life, this world, better.

 

 

on Jun 05, 2009

A friend sent this email and after reading it I thought of this thread...

 

A Pulitzer Prize Winner's Speech... 

 

We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as impossible situations.

 

This was a speech made by Pulitzer Prize-winning author, Anna Quindlen at the graduation ceremony of an American university where she was awarded an Honorary PhD.



"I'm a novelist. My work is human nature. Real life is all I know. Don't ever confuse the two, your life and your work. You will walk out of here this afternoon with only one thing that no one else has. There will be hundreds of people out there with your same degree: there will be thousands of people doing what you want to do for a living. But you will be the only person alive who has sole custody of your life. Your particular life. Your entire life. Not just your life at a desk or your life on a bus or in a car or at the computer. Not just the life of your mind, but the life of your heart. Not just your bank accounts but also your soul.

People don't talk about the soul very much anymore. It's so much easier to write a resume than to craft a spirit. But a resume is cold comfort on a winter's night, or when you're sad, or broke, or lonely, or when you've received your test results and they're not so good.

Here is my resume: I am a good mother to three children. I have tried never to let my work stand in the way of being a good parent. I no longer consider myself the centre of the universe. I show up. I listen. I try to laugh. I am a good friend to my husband. I have tried to make marriage vows mean what they say. I am a good friend to my friends and them to me. Without them, there would be nothing to say to you today, because I would be a cardboard cut out. But I call them on the phone and I meet them for lunch. I would be rotten, at best mediocre, at my job if those other things were not true.

You cannot be really first rate at your work if your work is all you are. So here's what I wanted to tell you today: Get a life. A real life, not a manic pursuit of the next promotion, the bigger pay cheque, the larger house. Do you think you'd care so very much about those things if you blew an aneurysm one afternoon or found a lump in your breast?

Get a life in which you notice the smell of salt water pushing itself on a breeze at the seaside, a life in which you stop and watch how a red-tailed hawk circles over the water, or the way a baby scowls with concentration when she tries to pick up a sweet with her thumb and first finger.

Get a life in which you are not alone. Find people you love, and who love you. And remember that love is not leisure, it is work. Pick up the phone. Send an email. Write a letter. Get a life in which you are generous. And realize that life is the best thing ever, and that you have no business taking it for granted. Care so deeply about its goodness that you want to spread it around. Take money you would have spent on beer and give it to charity. Work in a soup kitchen. Be a big brother or sister. All of you want to do well. But if you do not do good too, then doing well will never be enough.

It is so easy to waste our lives, our days, our hours, and our minutes. It is so easy to take for granted the colour of our kids' eyes, the way the melody in a symphony rises and falls and disappears and rises again. It is so easy to exist instead of to live.

I learned to live many years ago. I learned to love the journey, not the destination. I learned that it is not a dress rehearsal, and that today is the only guarantee you get. I learned to look at all the good in the world and try to give some of it back because I believed in it, completely and utterly. And I tried to do that, in part, by telling others what I had learned. By telling them this: Consider the lilies of the field. Look at the fuzz on a baby's ear. Read in the back yard with the sun on your face.

Learn to be happy. And think of life as a terminal illness, because if you do, you will live it with joy and passion as it ought to be lived".

 

on Jun 06, 2009

People don't talk about the soul very much anymore. It's so much easier to write a resume than to craft a spirit.

This I agree with and what I've already said here.

learned to live many years ago. I learned to love the journey, not the destination. I learned that it is not a dress rehearsal, and that today is the only guarantee you get.

This I don't agree with.  Reminds me of Christ when he said about those who are heading for destruction (not preparing for their destination) "eat, drink and be merry for tomorrow we will die."   Meaning for some this is all there is, for others there's another whole world waiting for them. 

To me it's a sad state to think this is all there is.  Life is but a vapor and then we're gone. 

on Jun 06, 2009

I simply find it ironic, and fascinating, that we choose to live our lives certain ways in an attempt to receive a better afterlife, instead of attempting to make this life, this world, better.

So you cannot fathom that while one is "attempting to receive a better afterlife" that he can't make this world a better  one in the progress? 

Think about it.  For many who think this is all there is, they are more likely to be self-centered wanting to get all the gusto there is because, well, you only get one chance. There is no afterlife.   For those who believe they are living for God and the chance to be with Him, they are living for Him now.  While living for him now and being accountable to Him,  they wish to bring glory to Him by serving others in the hopes that those they are serving can also benefit eternally. 

People don't talk about the soul very much anymore

This I agree with and have said as much here. 

I learned to love the journey, not the destination.

Why not both?  This would echo the sentiments of Silver and Jade.  They are not mutually exclusive as I've said above but can co-exist quite well.  We can love the journey and look forward to the destination.

To me it's a sad state to think this is all there is.  Reminds me of what Christ said of those heading for destruction...."eat, drink and be merry for tomorrow we will die."   For some this is all there is, for others there's a destination to look forward to.

 

on Jun 06, 2009

So you cannot fathom that while one is "attempting to receive a better afterlife" that he can't make this world a better one in the progress?

Actually, I can fathom it.  However, look at all the wars, and pain that has been caused, (for both religion, and other secular ideals) because of people's attempt at reaching a certain afterlife. 

Yes, the two can co-exist, however, in our world today, (and in the world's history) they haven't.

 

on Jun 06, 2009

learned to live many years ago. I learned to love the journey, not the destination. I learned that it is not a dress rehearsal, and that today is the only guarantee you get.

This I don't agree with. Reminds me of Christ when he said about those who are heading for destruction (not preparing for their destination) "eat, drink and be merry for tomorrow we will die." Meaning for some this is all there is, for others there's another whole world waiting for them.

To me it's a sad state to think this is all there is. Life is but a vapor and then we're gone.

As you, I don't agree with her on this point. She's very much in the here and now isn't she? Yet, there is more to life than just the earthly journey,,,there is earthly life and eternal life in either Heaven or Hell.

The reason why I posted it is becasue the main gist of what she is saying refutes the notion that life is an absurdity.

   

 

on Jun 07, 2009

The reason why I posted it is becasue the main gist of what she is saying refutes the notion that life is an absurdity.

To me, yes, spending life preparing for death is an absurdity.

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